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Sometimes, instead of coming up with something better, we need to come up with something worse.

Self as Observer.  Where on the continuum best describes you? “The person I call me is my thoughts and feelings about myself” on one end of the continuum. “The person I call me knows what I am thinking and feeling but is distinct from that process” is at the other end of the continuum. We…

If you are going to take sides against yourself, make sure you deserve it.

If you are convinced that things are bad you are likely to perceive things as bad as you believe they are.  Cognitive fusion is a concept from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.  It is similar to ideas of “self-fulfilling prophecy” and “perception is reality.” One way to undo cognitive fusion is through an openness to questioning…

One dimension of psychological well-being is autonomy.  This means a type of independence and self-determination where you are not manipulated by the social pressures of conformity.  This means an ability to think for yourself and do things that are right for you, not all the “shoulds” and “oughts” that we are told to do.  For…

Although originating as a side-effect of the coronavirus sheltering-in-place, the recently renewed interest in potted plants is likely to continue.

Mentalizing is a skill with two parts.  One part is the ability to see yourself from the outside.  This means accurately recognizing how others may see you in an interaction.  The other part is the capacity to see others from the inside.  This means to have a good sense of why someone is acting the…

Whenever I go to court something weird happens.