Dr. Torpor’s Advanced Tarot Seminar – Engaging Querents

August 25, 2021

Guess Sneakers Review

July 30, 2021

These sneakers had a metallic copper colored coating on the toes which looked great for about two weeks until it started peeling off like aluminum foil.  A pasty white mesh was revealed underneath.

I thought these shoes were vegan because the uppers felt like rubber although the box said the shoes were made of leather.  But, being procured on liquidation from a closing Gordman’s, they may have been in the wrong box.  I do suspect the uppers were synthetic because they did not breath and made my feet smell BAD which in turn made the interior of the sneakers smell AWFUL.  The blue rubbery upper material was also made to look like imitation snake skin.

The internal structure of the sneakers provided the orthopedic support of a pair of flip flops.  I know, nobody buys Guess sneakers to run a marathon.  The stitches broke away from the midsole and the toe sections leaving odd looking gaps around the toes that were looking more and more like shredded Christmas tree tinsel.  The insole underneath the toe started to separate making me fear if my toe caught an elevated sidewalk the whole bottom of the shoe would flap behind causing me to flop on my face.  I finally retired them when the big toenail of my right foot started poking a hole through the top of the now beleaguered copper coated toe surface.

Conclusion.  These shoes look great for a couple weeks.  But they will make your feet stink.  And they will end up in a landfill very quickly.  Unless you are clever at re-purposing things.  Why did I buy them in the first place?  The nice clerk at the nosediving Gordman’s told me they had been on the shelf for a couple years and priced them for me at eighteen dollars and some change.  At a price like that I could afford to have smelly feet for awhile.

Torpor Clinic

June 20, 2021

Sometimes Worse is Better

June 3, 2021

Sometimes, instead of coming up with something better, we need to come up with something worse.

Dr. Torpor, United States Postal Service!

May 5, 2021

Self as Observer According to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

April 21, 2021

man in front of his mirror in shadow white background

Self as Observer.  Where on the continuum best describes you?

“The person I call me is my thoughts and feelings about myself” on one end of the continuum.

“The person I call me knows what I am thinking and feeling but is distinct from that process” is at the other end of the continuum.

We move back and forth on this continuum throughout the moment, hour, day, week, month, year, decade, and lifetime.

This is just one example of the joy and challenge of being human.

From the “Self as Observer” scale from the “Acceptance & Commitment Therapy Advisor” instrument copyrighted by David Chandry.

The Self and Taking Sides

April 6, 2021

If you are going to take sides against yourself, make sure you deserve it.

Cognitive Fusion

April 4, 2021

If you are convinced that things are bad you are likely to perceive things as bad as you believe they are.  Cognitive fusion is a concept from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.  It is similar to ideas of “self-fulfilling prophecy” and “perception is reality.”

One way to undo cognitive fusion is through an openness to questioning how you view things.  Try to step back and watch how you behave and respond in situations.  Be open to evidence that may disconfirm what you usually tend to believe is the case.  Consider alternate explanations.


A Dimension of Well-Being

March 31, 2021

One dimension of psychological well-being is autonomy.  This means a type of independence and self-determination where you are not manipulated by the social pressures of conformity.  This means an ability to think for yourself and do things that are right for you, not all the “shoulds” and “oughts” that we are told to do.  For example, someone high in autonomy is able to resist the social pressure to have a new or “nice” car.  Instead, they might have an old car that meets their transportation needs in order to make money available for the things that are most important to them.  With high autonomy one is their own source of values that guide their actions instead of external forces.  Your own personal standards are your compass.

With low autonomy one is motivated by the fear of what others will think.  Consequently, one automatically seeks to follow the “rules” that are most prevalent, whether or not they fit oneself.  A fear of being judged negatively by others is a strong motivator with low autonomy.  This results in thinking and behaving in ways that are dictated by current social pressures.  For example, if one watches a lot of television they may come to believe one needs to have a certain type of physical attractiveness to have worth as a person.  Not only may they pursue changing their appearance but also feel ashamed or embarrassed by their own natural looks.


The Curse of the Green Thumb

March 29, 2021

Although originating as a side-effect of the coronavirus sheltering-in-place, the recently renewed interest in potted plants is likely to continue.